Confidence: What most people wont tell you.

"I'd rather die than face a crowd". " I wish the earth would open up and swallow me". Any of these sentences sound familiar? I'm sure it does that's because I probably have said it to myself more times than I can count - and so have you.

Confidence - or the lack of it can make the difference in who is considered a winner or a loser; A go getter or a charlatan; A master or a slave. Confidence can single handedly turn around difficult relationships, obscure positions and even seemingly impossible situations and make our lives worth living. So you often wonder why that guys to always get all he wants or why everyone admires that charming girl. The answer is simple; Its confidence . Confidence laced with the right attitude can be the tonic you need to give your relationships, your career and possibly your life that zest to get up and conquer.

Twelve tips to build your confidence

1. Look into the Eyes : The eyes are the window to the soul. Meet the gaze steadily with courage but try not to stare, that could be scary
2. Stand and sit straight: Sitting or standing straight reflects confidence you seem to say with your stance " I am confident". Now you know why gentlemen and ladies walk straight - Straight and Tall.
3. Smile: Ever seen anyone frown at a smiling baby? I haven't. Well, that's what a smile generates. It seems to say "you can trust me". That's for those with a genuine smile none of those plastic or cosmetic smiles. Remember, smile not just with your lips and teeth, but also with your eyes. You, like that baby can light up the world with your smile.
4. Speak: Try to make a good conversation with anyone. Sounds silly? Definitely not. When you talk to people even strangers, you build your confidence around people.
5. First Impression: We don't always get a second chance to make a good first impression so remember to make the first impression a positive and refreshing one. Make it count.
6. Use of Words: Make use of the right choice of words. Words that foster friendship not enmity. Remember three things cannot be taken back. A spent arrow, A broken promise and a spoken word.
7. Listen: Be a good listener after all you have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Need I say more?
8. Keep in touch: Remember your friends. Call them, Text them, visit them. Whatever you do, keep in touch.
9. Be Proactive: Whatever happens, create your world and empower your self, Change the situation.
10. Enjoy your social life: Have fun. Healthy Fun. Have a social life. This is improves your confidence.
11. Face your fear: What ever you fear believe that it has a solution. When you face the fear, you find the solution and the fear is history.
12. Be open minded: In our world, we will meet different people. People with opinions and idea different from all that we know and believe. An open mind enables us to live in harmony with others and develop the confidence we need to share our own belief calmly, with courage and with understanding.

Followings this tips can help you become a more confident person but that should be hinged on a value system that is based on love, compassion and integrity.

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Motivational May

Finally, the blog series for the month of May begins. We call this "Motivational May". For me, With elections, uprisings in the Arab world, Analytical April provided us with a reflective look at what goes on around us. With Novel experiences forcing us to begin again to take a look, we realise ever so clear that the world around us has changed and continues to change. In the thousand of years since the evolution of man, we are experiencing a new consciousness, the rising of the knowledge of our power, our freedom and our rights. And so, we begin to face a set of challenges in our society. Individually, we continue to ask ourselves the question; How do we evolve?

The series in "Motivational May" consciously approaches the renewing of the mind giving practical approaches to everyday challenges with solutions for our time and in the difficulty of our days. And so with expectations and anticipation colliding without the catalyst of the renewing of the mind, without realizing that as we think so we are and without being willing to give our mirth to society, then our limitations will confuse, confine and confound us.

For as William  Blake put it, "....To see our world in a grain of sand and heaven in a wild flower to hold infinity in the palm of your hand and eternity in one hour". This aptly captures the essence of our individuality and our desire to change for the better.

Femi Adelayo

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